Have you ever seen or come across a male chauvinist? A man who insults, belittles, criticizes and even physically abuses women.
If not personally, you must have read or heard about such incidents in the media, and most people have the same reaction.
We get upset, it deeply disturbs us and we say, “What a sick man.”
This is both figuratively and literally correct. Think about it; no one is born a bully.
A baby boy does not come into the world with a stamp of male chauvinism or a misogynist.
Such behavior is a result of cultural and psychological brainwashing.
A cranky and tired man comes home from work and rather than talking about his problems with his wife, he vents by yelling and beating her.
Either he is a bad man, or maybe he saw the same routine from his parents while growing up and never heard his mother complain.
His young mind thought that it’s okay to hit your wife once in a while.
Tom is a loving husband, but he is distrustful and controlling.
It could be that Tom is naturally an insecure man, but it could be that he witnessed his mother cheating on his father and it ruined his ability to trust in a relationship.
Maybe Saul makes dirty jokes and talks indecently to women because he heard the same kind of comments and jokes being made by his elders and saw that everybody laughed.
Sean was abused by his class teacher and has come to hate women everywhere.
There are many Toms and Sauls in our society that were raised by male chauvinist fathers and mothers who not only tolerated but pretended that everything was fine.
Then when they grew up, it was the norm to them.
There are countless Seans who were mentally and physically abused by someone close to them, and now they take out their deep-rooted frustration on someone weaker than them.
In our society, men are always told to be strong and not to act like a woman, which implies that women are weak. They have to be the providers or they feel they are not “man enough.” Therefore, when their wife or some other woman around them is earning more than them or is more successful, they feel threatened and challenged by them and retaliate.
Dozens of studies have shown that men react aggressively when their masculinity is challenged or questioned.
These men, the chauvinist and the bullies, need to be told over and over again that they do not need to fear women, and that it’s okay for men and women to be equals.
Men with childhood traumas may need therapy to get over their issues.
There is no quick fix and some men may be damaged for good, but even if we can change a handful of them at a time, the world will be a better place for it.